We tell ourselves that despite what this world tells us, its what’s inside that really matters. If that’s the case, then why does the outside cost some of us so much? As a young woman who has fallen prey to the craftiness of the beauty industry, I often find myself spending way more than what is needed in an effort to truly feel and be beautiful…or what this world considers to be beautiful. As much as I enjoy painting my face in the morning, I began to notice my dependence on colorful powders and thick foundations a few short years after makeup became a daily part of my routine when I was in college. And when you recognize that your presence with makeup, or lack thereof, has caused any amount of anxiety, then it may be time to re-evaluate your dependence on makeup.
Here’s the thing about beauty, when it’s solely based on another’s ability to call us beautiful or pretty, we are making way for the “ugly-demon” to latch on to us like leeches, sucking the blood on that part of us that so desperately wants to see and love the parts of us that the world is complimenting, but we struggle to.
What no one told us when were coming up in the age of nice school photos and pretty Easter dresses is that the ability to see ourselves as beautiful should have been rooted in the compliments, affirmation and the admiration that we received from ourselves. Not from anyone else.
I don’t mean this in a conceded and cocky way. I mean this in a way that marks a culture of little girls and boys who grow learning that they have been fearfully and wonderfully made by the creator of the universe. How dare we allow anyone to subtract from this fact.
I think it’s time we learn to go beyond loving just who we are, and instead learn to choose to love what God created in His marvelous works.
We were not just plopped here without a second thought or consideration. We were beautifully and majestically crafted. We were handpicked and chosen, we are loved and spoken for. We are beautiful with and without makeup, with and without fancy and stylish wardrobes and with and without the compliments and affirmation of others. It’s time we look into the mirror and believe it.
If you, like me, have suffered through years of not feeling as if you have reached his societies standard of beauty, and have been beat down by the mean, uncalled for and untrue comments of others, truly believing that you are in fact beautiful will not come overnight. But with a little soul work, and a lot of God, it is my prayer that we all will look into the mirror and be impressed with what we see without any filters.
Join me on the journey.